Marlo Thomas and Phil Donahue, the celebrated couple with over 40 years of marriage, reveal the intricacies of their relationship in their book, “What Makes a Marriage Last: 40 Celebrated Couples Share with Us the Secrets.” Surprisingly, Marlo initially viewed marriage with skepticism, likening it to a vacuum cleaner that drains energy and ambition. This perspective shifted when she met Phil after his first marriage ended in divorce.
Their first encounter in 1977, with Phil bringing four children from his previous marriage, marked the beginning of a transformative relationship. The couple dated for three years before tying the knot in 1980. Despite Marlo’s earlier reservations about marriage, the book recounts a comical incident at her bridal shower where guests hung quotes reflecting her former disdain for the institution.
The couple weathered skepticism from friends, family, and even strangers who doubted Marlo’s decision to give up her independent streak. However, they embraced the challenges, viewing them as learning experiences that strengthened their bond. Despite occasional separations due to work commitments, they maintained their commitment to each other.
Marlo, who gained stepchildren through the marriage, approached parenting differently, treating Phil’s kids as friends rather than adhering to a traditional mothering role. This approach, coupled with trust and faith in each other, contributed to the longevity of their marriage.
In reflecting on their enduring relationship, Phil emphasizes the importance of both partners wanting the marriage to last. Marlo echoes this sentiment, expressing her unwavering commitment to Phil, stating that he has supported her in every possible way. With over 40 years behind them, the couple looks forward to creating more memories together, grounded in trust and mutual support.