When I was 20, I was in a very toxic relationship. She got pregnant, we moved in together, and it was horrible. It all ended when she told me my daughter wasn’t mine…and I was relieved at the time. I was 20. I left. I went on with my life,I went to college, got married, and built my life. 7 months ago, a teenage girl contacted me claiming I was her father. I explained to her how she was misunderstood, but she insisted. So we took a paternity test, and she’s mine. The baby that I walked off on nearly 2 decade ago is mine and I missed all of those years.

Not only that, but she was pregnant, just like her mother was at her age. Her mom kicked her out, and she found me after that. She moved in with us 5 months ago, and my grandson is now almost 3 months old. It was essentially like I’d become a father and grandfather overnight. It hasn’t been smooth sailing. My wife has been supportive, but it’s taken a major toll on our relationship. We went from a quiet home to sleepless nights and emotional tension. We never planned for this, and I can tell that my wife is becoming resentful even though she denies it. She doesn’t want to talk about it. I need to talk about this with her because I feel her slipping away.

I love my wife. I love my daughter that I’m getting to know. I love my grandson. There’s so much guilt on my end because of all those years I missed. I don’t know how to hold all of this at once and I just need help. I feel guilt, confusion, and like I’m failing everyone. P.lease help with advice because I need it bad.